{"id":1252,"date":"2010-05-03T10:15:37","date_gmt":"2010-05-03T10:15:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.againstchildtrafficking.org\/?p=1252"},"modified":"2010-09-07T10:18:20","modified_gmt":"2010-09-07T10:18:20","slug":"france-over-80-adopted-children-are-abandoned-each-year","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/old.againstchildtrafficking.org\/archive\/france-over-80-adopted-children-are-abandoned-each-year\/","title":{"rendered":"France: Over 80 adopted children are abandoned each year"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>Source:<a href=\"http:\/\/romania-forexportonly.blogspot.com\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/romania-forexportonly.blogspot.com<\/a><\/div>\n<p>Published in France-Soir, Nicole Korchia, May 3, 2010.<\/p>\n<p>The figures are secret and taboo in France: officially 2% of adoptions are doomed to fail in France. But unofficially, the specialists speak bluntly of one out of ten &#8230; Our investigation.<\/p>\n<p>A terrible fact &#8230;<br \/>\nThe failures of the adoption, is not much spoken about. Yet even in France, heart-rending stories of adopted children handed to institutions, then returned to their countries are frequent and real.<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Taboo, controversial, no official statistics are given. The issue of adoption is too sensitive and the finding of failure are buried under the hundreds of pending requests. If figures of 2 and 3% failure are circulating, that is already huge, because it means that from about 4,000 children adopted each year, more than 80 are abandoned each year, returned as a simple device that does not work! What happens with these little ones, dismissed again and again, by their biological families and then the adoptive families? How will they rebuild? And why is that after so many stages and waiting, adoptive parents are unable to keep this child so much dreamed of?<\/p>\n<p>Why these failures?<br \/>\n&#8220;In the context of adoption, explains us at the AFA (French Adoption Agency), there is very often the child dreamed of and the real child. And the two do not always converge. Adoption is truly a graft which takes or does not. Indeed parents often go far beyond their original plan, thinking they can take an older child with a past emotional or physical problem or pathological &#8230; But over the months, things get complicated &#8230; Dr. Genevi\u00e8ve Andr\u00e9-Trevennec, director of M\u00e9decins du Monde, said: &#8220;We must make parents aware of the responsibility they had in their adoption process. They committed themselves, it&#8217;s like when you have a biological child who was born with difficulties, we assume and we love him until the end, whatever happens.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>What happens to these rejected children? When full adoption is recognized, the child remains legally forever bound to his parents. He is placed by the social services, but he will never be adoptable in full. When he is foreign and his country has made a legal decision, his country no longer wants him. And if not yet registered with the French registry, he finds himself a bit stateless. This happens especially when individual adoptions.<\/p>\n<p>To avoid this, the psychological preparation for parenthood and monitoring of adoptive families are gradually established by adoption agencies. &#8220;With the current trend of international adoption that offers more and more older children from complex situations, it becomes vital. Otherwise the failures will multiply! A supported and warned family reacts so not to come to extreme situations,&#8221; confirms Andr\u00e9 Genevieve Trevennec. But it is still insufficient and many signs of alarms go unnoticed. However, a failure to adopt never happens overnight. So many lives shattered in the first years of existence can not leave us indifferent &#8230;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;More than 30% of approvals granted should be denied&#8221;<br \/>\nDr. Pierre Levy-Soussan is a child psychiatrist, medical director Consulting affiliations in Paris. France-Soir. What a real failure of the adoption?<br \/>\nPierre Levy-Soussan. The most serious are those that result in abuse, neglect and with delivery of the child to the ASE (Child Welfare). They go well beyond the announced 2%. Then there are the equivalent of stalemate where the situation has degenerated to such an extent that parents or children have nothing together except indifference or hatred. The professionals assess globally these stalemates at 10 or 15%. And that\u2019s huge &#8230;<\/p>\n<p>F.-S. What should be done to prevent such tragedies?<br \/>\nP. L.-S. Being more selective about the licensing and stop the amateurism institutionalized in adoption. A case dismissed by the commission can be saved by a president of the general council or a judge. Amateurism! Anybody can get a license. The refusal rate nationwide is 10%, with 70% of departments between 0 and 10%! More than 30% should be rejected because the areas that work best have a refusal rate between 30 and 40%. No politician wants to challenge the law and children are paying the price!<\/p>\n<p>F.-S. How do concretely?<br \/>\nP. L.-S. Under the assumption of an efficient selection of candidates, by doing the work of matching of families: that child for that parent, as any child can not go with any parent. We must stop relying on the random arrival of files as does the AFA.<\/p>\n<p>F.-S. Do we paint a too rosy image of adopiton compared to its reality?<br \/>\nP. L.-S. Of course, and peopolisation contributes to that, adoption has a picture of a fairy tale. The realities and difficulties are put aside and it that does not help prospective adoptive parents who are often overwhelmed by the obstacles they encounter.<\/p>\n<p>F.-S. A story like the little Russian boy could have happened here?<br \/>\nP. L.-S. Not only it could have, but it happens in France. Children who are returned with their bags to the ASE that is unfortunately not an exception &#8230;<\/p>\n<p>A serious act that justice sanctions<br \/>\nOn March 29, 2010, the Criminal Court of Nantes sentenced adoptive parents to nine months suspended sentence for abandoning in 2004 their two Ethiopian children. Adopted four years before, they were delivered to ESA some time after the birth biological child of the couple in question. They were &#8220;violent and difficult,&#8221; explained the adoptive parents who paid 400 euros per month social services for custody, but no longer exercised their visiting rights.<\/p>\n<p>Second story: that of a couple who had adopted a Chinese child first and then a second, who around 3 years had shown a medical condition. When the parents heard the diagnosis, they left the child to the hospital and went to report the abandonment to the ESA. Obviously, this has destabilized the elder child, who thought that if she fell ill, her parents would abandon her. The second child was immediately placed in a remarkable family, who accompanied her on her treatment and was then adopted. It is an unfortunate story that did not end too badly &#8230;.<\/p>\n<p>Third case: that of a child born in Eastern Europe. It was well adapted, but the family made him their property, totally isolated from the world. Outside school, he saw no one other than his two parents. One educator charged with his follow up, reported these facts to the judiciary, because the parents refused to get help. Result, the child was placed in provisional detention. Finally, more recently, a mother went to pick up a child in Haiti after the earthquake of January 12, but she could not assume that adoption and gave it back to social services last month. The little girl is now at the DDASS (Child Protection) in the Reunion, abandoned after less than three months in a new family&#8230;<br \/>\n======================================<\/p>\n<p>5 mai 2010<br \/>\nPlus de 80 enfants adopt\u00e9s sont abandonn\u00e9s chaque ann\u00e9e<br \/>\nPubli\u00e9 sur le site France-Soir, oar Nicole Korchia, le 3 mai 2010.<\/p>\n<p>Les chiffres sont secrets et tabous en France : officiellement 2 % des adoptions sont vou\u00e9es \u00e0 l\u2019\u00e9chec en France. Mais officieusement, les sp\u00e9cialistes parlent carr\u00e9ment d\u2019un cas sur dix\u2026 Notre enqu\u00eate.<br \/>\nUn terrible constat\u2026<br \/>\nLes \u00e9checs de l\u2019adoption, on en parle peu. Pourtant, m\u00eame en France, des histoires d\u00e9chirantes d\u2019enfants adopt\u00e9s remis aux institutions, puis renvoy\u00e9s dans leurs pays sont fr\u00e9quentes et bien r\u00e9elles. Sujet tabou, pol\u00e9mique, aucune statistique officielle n\u2019est mise en avant. Le dossier de l\u2019adoption est trop sensible et le constat de l\u2019\u00e9chec enfoui sous les centaines de demandes en attente. Si des chiffres de 2 \u00e0 3 % d\u2019\u00e9chec circulent, c\u2019est d\u00e9j\u00e0 \u00e9norme, car cela signifie que sur environ 4.000 enfants adopt\u00e9s par an, plus de 80 sont abandonn\u00e9s chaque ann\u00e9e, rendus comme un simple appareil qui ne fonctionne pas ! Qu\u2019advient-il ensuite de ces petits rejet\u00e9s coup sur coup, par leur famille biologique puis adoptive ? Comment pourront-ils se reconstruire ? Et comment expliquer qu\u2019apr\u00e8s tant de d\u00e9marches et d\u2019attente, des parents adoptifs se r\u00e9v\u00e8lent incapables de garder cet enfant tant r\u00eav\u00e9 ?<\/p>\n<p>Pourquoi ces \u00e9checs ?<br \/>\n\u00ab Dans le cadre de l\u2019adoption, explique-t-on \u00e0 l\u2019AFA (Agence fran\u00e7aise de l\u2019adoption), il y a tr\u00e8s souvent l\u2019enfant r\u00eav\u00e9 et l\u2019enfant r\u00e9el. Et les deux ne se rejoignent pas toujours. L\u2019adoption est vraiment une greffe qui prend ou qui ne prend pas. \u00bb En effet souvent les parents vont bien au-del\u00e0 de leur projet initial en se disant qu\u2019ils pourront assumer un enfant plus grand, avec un pass\u00e9 psychologique charg\u00e9 ou un probl\u00e8me physique voire pathologique\u2026 Mais au fil des mois, les choses se compliquent\u2026 Le docteur Genevi\u00e8ve Andr\u00e9-Trevennec, directrice de M\u00e9decins du monde, explique : \u00ab Il faut faire prendre conscience aux parents de la responsabilit\u00e9 qu\u2019ils ont eue dans leur d\u00e9marche d\u2019adoption. Ils se sont engag\u00e9s, c\u2019est comme lorsqu\u2019on a un enfant biologique qui n\u00e9 avec des difficult\u00e9s, on l\u2019assume et on l\u2019aime jusqu\u2019au bout, quoi qu\u2019il arrive. \u00bb<\/p>\n<p>Que deviennent ces enfants rejet\u00e9s ? Lorsque l\u2019adoption pl\u00e9ni\u00e8re a \u00e9t\u00e9 reconnue, l\u2019enfant reste \u00e0 jamais li\u00e9 juridiquement \u00e0 ses parents. Il est plac\u00e9 par les services sociaux, mais il ne sera plus jamais adoptable pl\u00e9ni\u00e8rement. Lorsque qu\u2019il est \u00e9tranger et que son pays d\u2019origine a prononc\u00e9 un jugement, son pays n\u2019en veut plus. Et s\u2019il n\u2019est pas encore enregistr\u00e9 \u00e0 l\u2019\u00e9tat civil fran\u00e7ais, il se retrouve un peu apatride. Cela arrive particuli\u00e8rement lors d\u2019adoptions individuelles.<\/p>\n<p>Pour \u00e9viter cela, des pr\u00e9parations psychologiques \u00e0 la parentalit\u00e9 adoptive et un suivi des familles sont progressivement mis en place par les organismes d\u2019adoption. \u00ab Avec la tendance actuelle de l\u2019adoption internationale qui propose des enfants de plus en plus grands, issus de situations complexes, cela devient vital. Sinon les \u00e9checs se multiplieront ! Une famille soutenue et avertie r\u00e9agit pour ne pas arriver \u00e0 des situations extr\u00eames \u00bb, atteste Genevi\u00e8ve Andr\u00e9 Trevennec. Mais c\u2019est encore insuffisant et de nombreux signes d\u2019alarmes passent inaper\u00e7us. Pourtant, un \u00e9chec de l\u2019adoption n\u2019arrive jamais du jour au lendemain. Tant de vies bris\u00e9es dans les premi\u00e8res ann\u00e9es d\u2019existence ne peuvent laisser indiff\u00e9rent\u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab Plus de 30 % des agr\u00e9ments accord\u00e9s devraient \u00eatre refus\u00e9s \u00bb<br \/>\nLe Dr. Pierre L\u00e9vy-Soussan est p\u00e9dopsychiatre, m\u00e9decin directeur Consultation filiations \u00e0 Paris. France-Soir. Qu\u2019est-ce qu\u2019un v\u00e9ritable \u00e9chec de l\u2019adoption?<br \/>\nPierre L\u00e9vy-Soussan. Les plus graves sont ceux qui se traduisent par une maltraitance, avec abandon et remise de l\u2019enfant \u00e0 l\u2019ASE (Aide sociale \u00e0 l\u2019enfance). Ils vont bien au-del\u00e0 des 2 % annonc\u00e9s. Puis il y a les \u00e9quivalents d\u2019\u00e9checs lorsque la situation a d\u00e9g\u00e9n\u00e9r\u00e9, \u00e0 tel point que les parents ou les enfants n\u2019\u00e9prouvent plus rien ensemble sauf l\u2019indiff\u00e9rence ou la haine. Les professionnels \u00e9valuent globalement ces \u00e9checs \u00e0 10 ou 15 %. Et c\u2019est \u00e9norme\u2026<\/p>\n<p>F.-S. Que faudrait-il faire pour \u00e9viter de tels drames?<br \/>\nP. L.-S. Etre plus s\u00e9lectif sur les agr\u00e9ments et arr\u00eater l\u2019amateurisme institutionnalis\u00e9 en mati\u00e8re d\u2019adoption. Un dossier rejet\u00e9 par la commission peut ensuite \u00eatre sauv\u00e9 par un pr\u00e9sident de conseil g\u00e9n\u00e9ral ou un juge. Amateurisme ! N\u2019importe qui peut donc obtenir un agr\u00e9ment. Le taux de refus national est de 10 %, avec 70 % des d\u00e9partements entre 0 et 10 % ! Plus de 30 % devraient \u00eatre refus\u00e9s car les r\u00e9gions qui travaillent le mieux ont un taux de refus entre 30 et 40 %. Aucun politique ne veut remettre en question la loi et les enfants en font les frais !<\/p>\n<p>F.-S. Comment agir concr\u00e8tement?<br \/>\nP. L.-S. En assumant une s\u00e9lection efficiente des candidats, en faisant un travail d\u2019appariement des familles : tel enfant pour tel parent, car n\u2019importe quel enfant ne peut pas aller avec n\u2019importe quel parent. Il faut arr\u00eater de s\u2019en remettre au hasard de l\u2019arriv\u00e9e des dossiers comme le fait l\u2019AFA.<\/p>\n<p>F.-S. Fait-t-on un dossier trop rose de l\u2019adoption par rapport \u00e0 sa r\u00e9alit\u00e9?<br \/>\nP. L.-S. Bien s\u00fbr, et la peopolisation y contribue, l\u2019adoption a une image de conte merveilleux. Les r\u00e9alit\u00e9s et les difficult\u00e9s sont mises \u00e0 l\u2019\u00e9cart et cela n\u2019aide pas les futurs parents adoptifs qui se retrouvent souvent d\u00e9pass\u00e9s par les obstacles qu\u2019ils rencontrent.<\/p>\n<p>F.-S. Une histoire comme celle du petit gar\u00e7on russe aurait-elle pu arriver chez nous?<br \/>\nP. L.-S. Non seulement \u00e7a aurait pu, mais cela arrive en France. Des enfants qui sont renvoy\u00e9s avec leur valise \u00e0 l\u2019ASE cela n\u2019a malheureusement rien d\u2019exceptionnel\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Un acte grave que la justice sanctionne<br \/>\nLe 29 mars 2010, le tribunal correctionnel de Nantes a condamn\u00e9 des parents adoptifs \u00e0 neuf mois de prison avec sursis pour avoir abandonn\u00e9 en 2004 leurs deux enfants \u00e9thiopiens. Adopt\u00e9s quatre ans auparavant, ils ont \u00e9t\u00e9 remis \u00e0 l\u2019ASE quelque temps apr\u00e8s la naissance de l\u2019enfant biologique du couple mis en cause. Ils \u00e9taient \u00ab violents et difficiles \u00bb, ont expliqu\u00e9 les parents adoptifs qui payaient 400 euros par mois les services sociaux pour leur garde, mais n\u2019exer\u00e7aient plus leur droit de visite.<\/p>\n<p>Deuxi\u00e8me histoire : celle d\u2019un couple qui avait adopt\u00e9 un premier enfant chinois puis un deuxi\u00e8me, qui vers 3 ans a manifest\u00e9 une pathologie m\u00e9dicale. Quand les parents ont entendu le diagnostic, ils ont laiss\u00e9 l\u2019enfant \u00e0 l\u2019h\u00f4pital et sont all\u00e9s d\u00e9clarer l\u2019abandon \u00e0 l\u2019ASE. Bien \u00e9videmment, cela a d\u00e9stabilis\u00e9 l\u2019a\u00een\u00e9e qui a pens\u00e9 que si elle tombait malade, ses parents l\u2019abandonneraient. Le deuxi\u00e8me enfant a \u00e9t\u00e9 imm\u00e9diatement plac\u00e9 dans une famille d\u2019accueil remarquable, qui l\u2019a accompagn\u00e9 dans ses traitements et l\u2019a ensuite adopt\u00e9. C\u2019est une histoire malheureuse qui ne se termine pas trop mal\u2026.<\/p>\n<p>Troisi\u00e8me cas : celui de cet enfant n\u00e9 dans un pays de l\u2019Est. Il s\u2019\u00e9tait bien adapt\u00e9, mais la famille en a fait sa propri\u00e9t\u00e9, en l\u2019isolant totalement du monde. En dehors de l\u2019\u00e9cole, il ne voyait personne d\u2019autres que ses deux parents. Un intervenant \u00e9ducatif charg\u00e9 de le suivre a fait un signalement judiciaire apr\u00e8s constat des faits, parce que les parents refusaient de se faire aider. R\u00e9sultat, l\u2019enfant a \u00e9t\u00e9 mis en placement provisoire. Enfin, plus r\u00e9cemment, une m\u00e8re est all\u00e9e chercher une enfant \u00e0 Ha\u00efti apr\u00e8s le s\u00e9isme du 12 janvier, mais ne pouvant assumer cette adoption l\u2019a rendue aux services sociaux le mois dernier. La petite fille est aujourd\u2019hui \u00e0 la DDASS de La R\u00e9union, abandonn\u00e9e apr\u00e8s moins de trois mois pass\u00e9s dans une nouvelle famille\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Publi\u00e9 par Kim Myu<br \/>\n<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Source:http:\/\/romania-forexportonly.blogspot.com Published in France-Soir, Nicole Korchia, May 3, 2010. The figures are secret and taboo in France: officially 2% of adoptions are doomed to fail in France. But unofficially, the specialists speak bluntly of one out of ten &#8230; Our investigation. A terrible fact &#8230; The failures of the adoption, is not much spoken about&#8230;.  <a class=\"excerpt-read-more\" href=\"https:\/\/old.againstchildtrafficking.org\/archive\/france-over-80-adopted-children-are-abandoned-each-year\/\" title=\"Read France: Over 80 adopted children are abandoned each year\">Read more &raquo;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4,9],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/old.againstchildtrafficking.org\/archive\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1252"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/old.againstchildtrafficking.org\/archive\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/old.againstchildtrafficking.org\/archive\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/old.againstchildtrafficking.org\/archive\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/old.againstchildtrafficking.org\/archive\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1252"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/old.againstchildtrafficking.org\/archive\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1252\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1255,"href":"https:\/\/old.againstchildtrafficking.org\/archive\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1252\/revisions\/1255"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/old.againstchildtrafficking.org\/archive\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1252"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/old.againstchildtrafficking.org\/archive\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1252"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/old.againstchildtrafficking.org\/archive\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1252"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}