{"id":7530,"date":"2023-01-14T06:51:02","date_gmt":"2023-01-14T06:51:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.againstchildtrafficking.org\/?p=7530"},"modified":"2023-01-14T06:51:02","modified_gmt":"2023-01-14T06:51:02","slug":"i-ask-myself-every-day-who-i-actually-am","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/old.againstchildtrafficking.org\/archive\/i-ask-myself-every-day-who-i-actually-am\/","title":{"rendered":"I ask myself every day who I actually am"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>(unpolished google translation)<\/p>\n<p>Source: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.spiegel.de\/ausland\/schweden-wie-das-land-seine-adoptionsskandale-aufarbeitet-a-c4d99b63-444c-4609-91be-4d803000528d?context=issue\">DER SPIEGEL 3\/2023<\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/www.spiegel.de\/ausland\/schweden-wie-das-land-seine-adoptionsskandale-aufarbeitet-a-c4d99b63-444c-4609-91be-4d803000528d?context=issue\">\u00a0<\/a><\/p>\n<p>By Fiona Ehlers; January 13, 2023, 1 p.m.<\/p>\n<p>Since the 1960s, 60,000 children from countries such as Chile<br \/>\nand South Korea have been adopted in Sweden \u2013 some have<br \/>\nbeen sold, others even stolen. Now some are asking for<br \/>\nclarification.<\/p>\n<p>Occasionally, when he is pensive or lonely, Patrik Lundberg sits<br \/>\nwith Astrid Lindgren. In Tegn\u00e9rlunden Park, near Stockholm<br \/>\nCentral Station, there is a small memorial in her honor in the<br \/>\nshade of a tree. Lundberg&#8217;s Swedish adoptive parents once read<br \/>\nhim from &#8220;Mio, mein Mio&#8221;, the story of the orphan boy who comes<br \/>\nto this park when he misses his father, the king in the land far<br \/>\naway &#8211; and all around the windows are lit up and children sit<br \/>\ntogether their mothers and fathers. Patrik Lundberg knows this<br \/>\nfeeling.<\/p>\n<p>Lundberg, a reserved Swede with a fondness for<br \/>\nVikings and football, is a reporter for Sweden&#8217;s highcirculation newspaper, Dagens Nyheter. About two years ago he uncovered a scandal. In the series of articles &#8220;Children at any price,&#8221; he and two colleagues<br \/>\nhighlighted the fate of individuals who were illegally<br \/>\nadopted. They started a debate about Swedish parents<br \/>\nwho, often because of misunderstood mercy, saved<br \/>\nchildren &#8211; children who didn&#8217;t need saving at all. Lundberg&#8217;s<br \/>\nresearch found that in at least 11 countries, infants were<br \/>\ntaken away, pronounced dead, or bought from mostly poor<br \/>\nparents.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;We were able to prove,&#8221; says Lundberg that<br \/>\nafternoon in Lindgren Park, &#8220;like Sweden Courted<br \/>\ndictators it officially despised: How it supported China&#8217;s<br \/>\nlong-standing one-child policy by taking in the banned<br \/>\nsiblings. Or South Korea&#8217;s patriarchal system that made life hell for unmarried<br \/>\nmothers.<\/p>\n<p>A system came to light, a kind of child trafficking,<br \/>\ncertified in a state that for a good year saw little reason<br \/>\nto question its adoption policy. &#8211; to be a pioneer in human rights, a moral model nation &#8211; falter as much as in the Child adoption from abroad. Because no other country in the world has adopted<br \/>\nso many foreign babies in relation to the number of<br \/>\ninhabitants. Since the 1960s, children from more than countries raised. There were always suspicions again, fake birth certificates, rumors of kidnapping;<br \/>\nDiplomats have been warned about so-called \u201cpillow adoptions\u201d \u2013 that is, women who steal other<br \/>\npeople&#8217;s children by sneaking into maternity wards with pillows in front of their stomachs and leaving with babies in their arms.<\/p>\n<p>To this day, foreign children are adopted in Sweden, much<br \/>\nless, but still under dubious circumstances, says Lundberg.<br \/>\nAnd also from countries like China, Vietnam and India,<br \/>\nwhich have signed the Hague Convention on Intercountry<br \/>\nAdoption, according to which children their countries should of be origin raised in<br \/>\nwhenever possible. &#8220;As a journalist, I&#8217;m fighting,&#8221; says<br \/>\nLundberg, &#8220;to prevent that.&#8221; Born as Kim Jong-dae in South Korea Lundberg&#8217;s research has prompted the Swedish government to investigate all adoptions since the 1950s.<br \/>\nA team from Uppsala University is currently investigating<br \/>\nwhether there were any irregularities on the part of the<br \/>\nstate, such as judges declaring adoptions legal and how<br \/>\nstate-controlled placement agencies such as the Adoption<br \/>\nCenter operated. They want to be finished by the end of<br \/>\nthis year, &#8220;but we&#8217;ll probably need much longer,&#8221; said chief<br \/>\ninvestigator Anna Singer, whose official trips she last went<br \/>\nto Chile and Colombia led. There, too, illegal placements<br \/>\nand even suspected child abductions took place. And not only in Sweden, but also in France, Belgium, Switzerland and occasionally in Germany, adoptees have joined forces and demand<br \/>\nclarification. In the Netherlands a similar investigation into children<br \/>\nadopted from abroad led to an interim freeze on adoption.\u00a0 Many of the Swedish activists want a ban on international adoptions and an institution that supports adoptees<br \/>\nand their adoptive parents \u2013 psychologically and financially. In Stockholm<br \/>\nthe enlightener Patrik Lundberg is a middleman, he collects their stories and<br \/>\nestablishes connections between adoptees from India, Chile, South Korea.<\/p>\n<p>Lundberg himself was born as Kim Jong-dae im<br \/>\nin Busan, South Korea, and was adopted by Swedish parents when<br \/>\nhe was six months old. For a long time he thought he was an isolated case.<br \/>\nHe got his from a tattoo artist<br \/>\nAnd not only in Sweden, but also in France, Belgium, Switzerland and<br \/>\noccasionally in Germany, adoptees have joined forces and demand<br \/>\nclarification. In the Netherlands with . A similar investigation into children<br \/>\nadopted from abroad led to an interim freeze on adoption.<br \/>\nGet case number stitched on left forearm, \/SJH. For Lundberg it is a kind of raison d&#8217;\u00eatre, his guaranteed identity. When Lundberg was years old, he traveled to Seoul to learn Korean,<br \/>\nwhere he met other adoptees from Europe who had similar questions<br \/>\nabout their origins. The Korean recruitment agency gave him his parents&#8217;<br \/>\naddress, but when he drove there, he hugged the wrong people. They are<br \/>\nonly relatives, the Koranic couple explained to the shocked Lundberg, the<br \/>\nreal parents were too young at the time. Therefore, one would have had to<br \/>\ncheat with the information, otherwise the mediation would never have come<br \/>\nabout. Lundberg&#8217;s previous existence turned out to be a lie: the date of birth,<br \/>\nthe name of his parents &#8211; everything he had imagined year in, year out &#8211;<br \/>\nnone of it was correct. Later he met his father, later still his mother. &#8220;Unlike many others,<br \/>\nmy story had a happy ending,&#8221; says Lundberg in the park. Two years ago<br \/>\nhe took his sister to Seoul &#8211; they reunited with hers Korean families and keep in touch to this day.<\/p>\n<p>It was her destiny to have been the fourth daughter The sister was also put up for adoption as a baby in South<br \/>\nKorea and taken in by the Lundbergs in Sweden. It was her<br \/>\ndestiny to have been the fourth daughter, a girl again. Her Korean<br \/>\nmother wanted to keep her, her father wanted a son, and he secretly<br \/>\ngave the baby away.\u00a0 &#8220;My sister and I came with forged papers and identities at the<br \/>\nheight of the illegal adoption wave,&#8221; says Lundberg. Both<br \/>\nbiological mothers did not know, to date no declaration of consent<br \/>\nhas appeared &#8211; and where exactly the mediation fee of the<br \/>\nSwedish parents of the equivalent of a few thousand euros has<br \/>\nleaked is also unclear.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bbSweden\u00ab, says Lundberg, \u00bbhas too many of these countries trusted.&#8221; Historically, adoption is one of humanity&#8217;s oldest cultural<br \/>\nachievements, at best it can save lives. Literature and<br \/>\nmythology are full of characters who are more resilient than others<br \/>\nbecause they suffered more early on &#8211; Moses in the basket<br \/>\nbecame him Recipient of the Ten Commandments, from Harry Potter a powerful one Wizard. And Nelson Mandela, Jack Nicholson or Oprah<br \/>\nWinfrey sometimes grew up with parents who were not their<br \/>\nbiological parents.<\/p>\n<p>You could also think that Lundberg made it: An award-winning<br \/>\ncareer, the chance to change something in his country, families<br \/>\non two continents. And yet, he says, &#8220;I know this fear of being<br \/>\nleft behind.&#8221; Maybe that&#8217;s what drives him. Perhaps the fear of<br \/>\nbeing meaningless is the reason \u201cwhy I do all this here.\u201d And<br \/>\nwhy he is sometimes drawn to Park Tegn\u00e9rlunden<\/p>\n<p>Lundberg was adopted as a baby, while Jyothi Svahn was<br \/>\nfive and a half when a Swedish couple took her from an<br \/>\norphanage in Bangalore, India. And that had consequences for<br \/>\nher whole life.<br \/>\nFor as long as Svahn can remember, memories of her<br \/>\nbirth mother have plagued her\u2014her voice, light and low; how<br \/>\nshe squats in the market, sorting flowers by color and tying<br \/>\nthem into chains; her crying in the night. For years she lived<br \/>\nwith this secret, feeling guilty in front of her Swedish parents.<br \/>\nGuilty to her Indian mother too. She must have done something<br \/>\nwrong, otherwise she would have been given away?<\/p>\n<p>Jyothi Svahn, now years old, is a short woman with jet<br \/>\nblack hair, lots of necklaces, lots of make-up. They rotate<br \/>\nin Stockholm&#8217;s trendy district of S\u00f6dermalm. People look for her, she has something rebellious and yet<br \/>\nseems insecure. Most of the time she feels like one &#8220;Extraterrestrials,&#8221; pushed back and forth, not belonging<br \/>\nto any group. &#8220;Not even migrants accept me, for them I&#8217;m<br \/>\nSwedish,&#8221; she says on the way to her favorite Indian restaurant.<br \/>\nMigrants usually have a choice as to whether they want to live<br \/>\nhere. But she never asked anyone. &#8220;I think,&#8221; she often says, &#8220;I&#8217;ve never really been happy. I ask<br \/>\nmyself every day who I actually am As Svahn came of age and this need to belong<br \/>\ngrew, she confessed her pain to her baffled Swedish<br \/>\nparents. Svahn can turn to her mother remember &#8211; but the adoption papers say: mother<br \/>\nunknown. How did that fit together? Together they flew to the orphanage in Bangalore. The<br \/>\nheadmistress, an elderly lady in a sari, was no help, Svahn<br \/>\nsays. Because Svahn wasn&#8217;t an orphan, she was made one,<br \/>\nmaybe for money Back in Bangalore, says Svahn, she wanted to see her<br \/>\nfile, wanted names and addresses. &#8220;You&#8217;re the most<br \/>\nungrateful adoptee I&#8217;ve ever met,&#8221; the headmistress<br \/>\nblurted out. There it was again, the sentence that transplanted children fear: You have been saved, be grateful and<br \/>\nbe still. Despite this, Svahn finally learned two names, that of her<br \/>\nbiological father and that of her mother, she couldn&#8217;t get any further. She flew back to Sweden and complained to the adoption<br \/>\ncenter, she was one of around\u00a0 \u00a0 children who had come to the country through the placement agency.\u00a0 &#8220;I want them to put pressure on the orphanage and tell me where<br \/>\nmy mother is.&#8221; The conversation ended and Svahn stormed off,\u00a0 she says. She flew back to Bangalore with a film crew that got her father&#8217;s address and fell into his arms. He swore in tears that he knew nothing about the adoption and<br \/>\nhad been looking for his child for months. Her mother has been<br \/>\nmissing for years, presumably dead.\u00a0 Svahn was in a reunion frenzy. She knew now she had not been<br \/>\ncast out. But then the film team traveled\u00a0 off, the happy ending was shot, a new story began, it<br \/>\ncontinues to this day: It is about an uneducated father who<br \/>\nhas little in common with his daughter From adoptive parents who understand their search but are hurt by<br \/>\nthe accusation of being na\u00efve. Svahn now smiles briefly and then looks back at her plate.<br \/>\nShe carries her story around with her like a backpack,<br \/>\neveryone can take a look inside. &#8220;Like many adoptees,&#8221; she<br \/>\nsays, &#8220;I have a penchant for mean guys who find me exotic and<br \/>\npass them around as a trophy.&#8221;\u00a0 A study of mental health problems among Swedes<br \/>\nadopted from abroad found that these children are three imes<br \/>\nmore likely to commit suicide than native Swedes and five<br \/>\ntimes more likely to be drug addicts. Svahn also describes herself as suicidal; she met other<br \/>\nadoptees in a Swedish clinic. &#8216;Seven of them have now taken their own lives taken,\u201d she says.\u00a0 &#8220;My story,&#8221; says Svahn, &#8220;is a crime committed by colorblind white men who indulge in the role of Mother Teresa for poor<br \/>\nchildren. The easy\u00a0 decided this baby would do better westbound. Who tells me if my life would not have been happier in<br \/>\nthe bosom of my blood relatives &#8211; as one among equals in India?&#8221; Svahn&#8217;s photo appeared in Lundberg&#8217;s adoption series. One<br \/>\nreaction was particularly important to her. Her Swedish<br \/>\nadoptive father texted: &#8220;I saw you in the newspaper, well<br \/>\ndone!&#8221; Svahn says she&#8217;s been waiting for this encouragement for a<br \/>\nlong time.\u00a0 Fates like Svahn&#8217;s aren&#8217;t the only things hidden behind Sweden&#8217;s<br \/>\nhigh adoption rates. You are too\u00a0 Reflection of world politics: In the 1950s war orphans were<br \/>\nsent around the world from Korea and since the 1970s from<br \/>\nVietnam. Another wave came in the 1970s and 1980s with children<br \/>\nfrom Latin American dictatorships like Chile. From the In the 1990s, Russia, China and, again and again, South Korea<br \/>\nranked high on the list of child-exporting countries. Partial were the<br \/>\nboundaries between humanitarian Engagement and child trafficking blurred. Tobias H\u00fcbinette, , university lecturer, has been researching this<br \/>\nfor years and advises the investigative commission that has now<br \/>\nbeen set up. You meet him in front of the Royal Library in Stockholm. He wears horn-rimmed glasses<br \/>\nand has a tattered briefcase under his arm. He says he was friends with the late best-selling author Stieg<br \/>\nLarsson, and one of the role models for the character of the<br \/>\nhacker Lisbeth Salander in Larsson&#8217;s Millennium trilogy.<br \/>\nH\u00fcbinette is also an investigator, a adoption detective. For TV shows he is looking for biological<br \/>\nparents in Africa, Asia, Latin America. He has already good united families.<\/p>\n<p>In his own family affairs, however, H\u00fcbinette did not get any<br \/>\nfurther, and to this day he only knows his fake identity. Like<br \/>\nLundberg, he had come from South Korea as a baby, albeit a<br \/>\ngood decade earlier. Here in Sweden, many of us stay with wealthy people<br \/>\nRaised in academic families,\u00ab says H\u00fcbinette as he leads us<br \/>\npast the Wilhelminian style houses on the posh<br \/>\nStureplan in Stockholm city center. &#8220;And this is where the<br \/>\nvery elderly upper-class ladies live, many of whom brought<br \/>\nus here as babies. I still know a few of them personally.&#8221; He<br \/>\nsays that wives of Swedish embassy employees and<br \/>\nbusinessmen have set up networks in various countries to look<br \/>\nfor suitable children to search. Why? &#8216;There are cases like that<br \/>\nof a Swede in Chile who received over a month from the<br \/>\nadoption center for her services until the late 1980s. But most<br \/>\nladies negotiated H\u00fcbinette speaks of a \u00bbleft-wing intellectual Experiment\u00ab, making Sweden \u2013 until the 1980s a country<br \/>\nalmost exclusively inhabited by white people \u2013 \u00bbmore colourful should be. With children like him, it should be shown that a<br \/>\nmulticultural society can be formed, beyond ethnic borders and<br \/>\nprejudices. Swedish couples didn&#8217;t take the babies in because they were infertile<br \/>\nthemselves: \u00bbOur parents wanted to save the Third World, toAdoption as a political act &#8211; backed by the Swedish state and<br \/>\nan adoption agency that was believed to be more concerned<br \/>\nwith parenting than locating children. In the eyes of many<br \/>\nadoptees, this is a kind of neo-colonialism. &#8220;Because Sweden,&#8221;<br \/>\nsays Tobias H\u00fcbinette, &#8220;wants to prove nothing other than<br \/>\ntheir own superiority.&#8221;<br \/>\nfree children from misery and poverty!\u00ab\u00a0 H\u00fcbinette says that the topic is not off the table just because<br \/>\ninternational adoption is being phased out, because thousands<br \/>\nare no longer coming, but just a few hundred a year. &#8220;It we meet again in reproductive medicine and in surrogacy.&#8221;<br \/>\nA new industry is emerging here.\u00a0 Also, children born today through sperm donation,<br \/>\negg donation, and surrogacy around the world can find it difficult<br \/>\nto know biological origins.\u00a0 The right to know one&#8217;s parentage, which has existed for<br \/>\nyears in Sweden for children from sperm or egg cell<br \/>\ndonations, was often deferred in Swedish international<br \/>\nadoptions, the argument of humanitarian aid apparently<br \/>\nweighed more. Now, in the age of reproductive medicine, says<br \/>\nH\u00fcbinette, it must finally gain in importance.<br \/>\n<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>(unpolished google translation) Source: DER SPIEGEL 3\/2023\u00a0 By Fiona Ehlers; January 13, 2023, 1 p.m. Since the 1960s, 60,000 children from countries such as Chile and South Korea have been adopted in Sweden \u2013 some have been sold, others even stolen. Now some are asking for clarification. 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